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Real swinger stories: First Time Swingers

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I wrote a true swinger sex story on Literotica about the first time my wife and I had group sex with another couple.

You can read it here: http://www.literotica.com/s/first-time-swingers-6 

It’s been almost a year since our first time as swingers, and I still think back on that experience quite fondly and quite often. Here are a few things I have learned from that experience, and why it was so great:

  • I like confident, assertive women. One of the reasons why our experience with Sara and Bill was so great, is that Sara was not shy AT ALL. Sara was a ravenous sex kitten. She knew exactly what she wanted and she knew how to get it. She was hungry for cock. She eagerly devoured my wife. She talked dirty to us all along the way about how strongly she desired us, and she was open and unabashed about her needs.
  • Four-way chemistry is powerful. Couple swapping group sex is a unique dynamic. If you want it to work, you really need everybody to be into everybody – the guys have to desire the other women, the women have to desire each other, and the women have to desire the guys. We have had other experiences in the swinger lifestyle where the guys didn’t seem to be as into my wife, or my wife wasn’t as into the guys. (This has never been an issue for me – I’m almost ALWAYS totally into the other women – because I am a slutty, slutty, slut.) Our first time swinger sex was fun because Bill really wanted my wife, Sara really wanted me and my wife, and I really wanted Sara – and my wife wanted both of them.
  • Emotional connections are important to us. We were friends with Sara and Bill before we ever had sex with them. We knew them and respected them, and we knew that we had certain important things in common, apart from our shared interest in the swinger lifestyle. I remember spending a lot of time kissing and cuddling with Sara, naked in bed, just enjoying every moment with her. I felt very close to her. I enjoyed the intimacy that we shared. I don’t really agree with the idea that “sex is sex, and love is love.” For me, swinger sex is more complicated than that. I didn’t just lust after Sara (although I did), but I wanted to know her, experience her, and remember her.

Our first time swinger encounter with “Bill” and “Sara” was one of the best experiences we’ve had in the swinger lifestyle. Our only regret is that we weren’t able to have group sex with them again – they decided that they wanted it to only be a one-time thing.

My wife really pined after Sara for a long time. My wife was really into Sara and would have happily had a relationship with her. I even told my wife that it was OK with me if she saw Bill and Sara separately, without me – I assumed that the reason why Sara and Bill didn’t want to see us again was because Bill didn’t like to watch his wife with another man. But my wife never quite got around to contacting Sara or doing anything about it – she was all emotionally conflicted and uncertain about how (or whether) to make a move.

My wife is funny like that – she is totally “the guy” in our relationship. I kept saying to her, “You need to talk to Sara! You need to communicate, and express your feelings!” And my wife was feeling all self-conscious and repressive and bashful. It was adorable, really.

This is one of the frustrating things about the swinger lifestyle – sometimes you can’t get exactly what you want. Being in the swinger lifestyle opens up many exciting possibilities, but they don’t all come true.

What was your best experience in the swinger lifestyle? What did you learn from it? Tell us in the Comments!

11 thoughts on “Real swinger stories: First Time Swingers

  1. I know the first time my ex and I (back when she wasn’t my ex of course) had our first foursome with our best friend and his girlfriend. What made it special is that we weren’t trying to have sex with them and wound up doing so because our friend was a wuss about eating pussy; his girl needed it, he was afraid to do it. I remember the four of us sitting and talking about it and we wound up agreeing to get naked and get busy.

    We agreed that we – the guys – should stay with their own woman but other than that, there wasn’t much in the way of rules and, in retrospect, that one rule that was voiced wasn’t as specific as it would need to be today. It didn’t take very long for that non-specific rule to go out the front door, either; our friend was not only eating his girl out but eating my wife, too; the two of them ganged on up him giving him head – they had him not only calling out their names but spelling them… and I was really having fun watching them take him apart.

    At one point, the girlfriend was sucking him, my wife was eating her, I was chowing down on my wife… and my very straight friend started giving me head! When it was time to put A into B, we did stay with our own woman for that… for the first go-round. I actually got out-voted on that one; they wanted to switch partners despite their initial stance of us not doing that.

    I still feel that first foursome was the best experience because of the shift in our thinking about love, sex, and our relationship. I felt that we had really grown up that day and learned that we could have sex like this and all it really was going to do was enrich our relationship; we learned to get rid of all the angst having sex with another couple can bring that very first time; and it was the first time I experienced what I later learned was compersion – I was so happy that the sex my wife was receiving from our playmates was making her very happy. We learned that, for us, just letting things go in whatever direction they’re gonna go in is a lot more fun that sticking a lot of rules into the mix because whenever we did that, we found that we were losing something in the translation, as it were; it’s kinda hard to have great, mind-blowing, knock-down, dragged out sex if your mind is busy thinking about what you can’t do.

    • That’s a great story, kdaddy, thanks for sharing! My wife and I have a few “vanilla” friends who we would like to seduce. I guess that’s one of our only hesitations about being more “out of the closet” as swingers – we don’t want people to think we’re constantly on the prowl for new sex partners. Even though we totally are.

      • In those early days, we didn’t want EVERYBODY knowing what we liked to do on the weekends! And it seemed that we spent more time “having sex on the fly” than we did actually planning to get with other people.

        What we found was that if four of us were sitting and talking and the conversation turned to sex – and it usually did – chances were good we’d see some spontaneous action and, indeed, we did learn that getting some this way was better than planning to do so; this way, you didn’t have to worry about people backing out or not showing up.

        We did get to a point where we didn’t care who knew we liked to play; there was some frowning, of course, but we ‘defended’ ourselves by pointing out that it was up to us to define how good our marriage was going to be… and screwing other people wound up being part of our plans for a good, long-lasting marriage – they were just mad because they couldn’t do it.

      • We’ve found that our immediate circle of “vanilla” friends tend to be more attractive/interesting/sexy than most people on Lifestyle sites. We need to find more opportunities to “turn them out.” ;)

      • Funny you mention that; after that first foursome, everyone we knew was suddenly fuckable and we had lots of fun with most of them. Those who didn’t succumb to our, ah, subtle seduction, told us that they wished they were as liberated as we obviously were.

        Today, my lady and I find ourselves wishing that doing this was as easy as it was back then; no agendas, no deep scrutiny, no trying to decide who’s a good match: Just get together, get naked, and let whatever’s gonna happen take place so that the entire sexual experience can be the best it can be.

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